Ego is the enemy of what you want and of what you have. All of us, at every stage of life, are the victims of our own Ego. Our Ego leads us to strive too far, expect too much, assume that we’re deserving all before we’ve even done the work.
𝐒𝐎, 𝐖𝐇𝐘 𝐈𝐒 𝐄𝐆𝐎 𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐄𝐍𝐄𝐌𝐘? – There are several reasons:
𝐊𝐞𝐞𝐩𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐨𝐮𝐜𝐡 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲
Your Ego is what prevents you from hearing critical but necessary feedback from others. Ego makes you over-estimate your own abilities and worth, and under-estimate the effort and skill required to achieve your goals. All of this means that you miss opportunities to improve, to connect with others, and to achieve your goals.
𝐂𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐬 𝐮𝐧𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐜 𝐞𝐱𝐩𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐭𝐥𝐞𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭
Ego makes you assume that you deserve some outcome – a job offer, a promotion, a sports win, etc. because of your past efforts. It creates a feeling of entitlement: I want what’s mine, what’s due to me. I know what I deserve.
𝐌𝐚𝐤𝐞𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐝𝐞𝐩𝐞𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐨𝐧 𝐞𝐱𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐧𝐚𝐥 𝐯𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐝𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧
If you let your Ego take too much control of yourself, you become incredibly dependent on external validation. This validation may take the form of applauses from a crowd , praise from family and friends , high salary , big house , fancy car , social media likes and follows, etc.
𝐖𝐇𝐀𝐓 𝐂𝐀𝐍 𝐖𝐄 𝐃𝐎 𝐓𝐎 𝐂𝐔𝐑𝐁 𝐎𝐔𝐑 𝐄𝐆𝐎?
𝐃𝐨 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠, 𝐝𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐓𝐫𝐲 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐒𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐛𝐨𝐝𝐲
When we want to do something, we are motivated more by our purpose than by the external validation that comes with trying to be somebody. We’re willing to work hard, stay true to our purpose and our beliefs, and treat others generously. Because we’re less worried about how much credit, recognition, and rewards we get in our quest to be somebody.
𝐅𝐨𝐜𝐮𝐬 𝐨𝐧 𝐞𝐟𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐭, 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐨𝐮𝐭𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐬
You may have done everything you could have done to prepare, and may have very well performed your best. Yet despite all of this, the outcome of your efforts may be negative. We can only control our own actions, but we cannot control what other people do. We cannot control the environment. And we cannot control the element of luck. Just Focus on the Effort.
𝐌𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐎𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐏𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐒𝐮𝐜𝐜𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐟𝐮𝐥
By paying attention to other people’s needs, desires, and goals, you are by definition setting aside your ego in order to focus on others. You build an incredible amount of trust and goodwill with everyone when you behave this way. Imagine how much more Creative, Productive, and Energized we would be if we always lived life this way if we can Truly Manage our own Ego.
𝐃𝐢𝐬𝐬𝐨𝐥𝐯𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐄𝐠𝐨 𝐛𝐞𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐢𝐭 𝐃𝐢𝐬𝐬𝐨𝐥𝐯𝐞𝐬 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟.