Helps you take Control of your Emotions and Act in your Own, Best Interest, whether it’s in Making Decisions, Communicating with Others, or your Health and Happiness.
There are 2 distinct parts of the brain.
𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐇𝐮𝐦𝐚𝐧 𝐁𝐫𝐚𝐢𝐧 which focuses on Logic, Reason and requires a Sense of Purpose. 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐂𝐡𝐢𝐦𝐩 𝐁𝐫𝐚𝐢𝐧 which is designed to Protect and Survive and is an Emotional Creature in it’s Own Right.
𝐋𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐨𝐧 𝟏: 𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐰𝐨 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐩𝐞𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐜𝐞𝐬 𝐢𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐛𝐫𝐚𝐢𝐧, 𝐬𝐨 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧 𝐭𝐨 𝐫𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐠𝐧𝐢𝐳𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐦.
The Human part of our brain acts rationally, based on facts, but the Chimp only decides using emotions. This leads to problems whenever the two clash or the wrong one ends up in charge.
Let’s say you got cut off in traffic and almost suffered a crash. You come home to your partner and share this disturbing event. Trying to calm you down, they tell you that, luckily, it all turned out fine.
If you’re still in Chimp mode, you might take that as criticism and start an argument. Only if the Human’s in charge can you see this fact clearly, calm down, and move on without harping on the situation.
The most important thing is to start observing your own state of mind. When you start stressing out, ask yourself: “Who’s in charge here? Do I want to feel and act this way? Or is the Chimp taking over?”
𝐋𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐨𝐧 𝟐: 𝐖𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐦𝐮𝐧𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝐟𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐝𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐜𝐭 𝐦𝐨𝐝𝐞𝐬, 𝐰𝐡𝐢𝐜𝐡 𝐝𝐞𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐞 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞𝐬𝐭 𝐬𝐚𝐲 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐚𝐲.
- You’re using your Human brain and so is your conversation partner
- You are in Human mode, but the person you’re talking to behaves like a Chimp
- You’re the Chimp, while the other person’s human is in charge
- Both of you behave like Chimps
The first scenario is ideal, two and three are tough to figure out, but can be handled once you know what you’re dealing with. It’s the fourth scenario that’s to be avoided, because it most often ends in an ugly fight. Besides making an effort to recognize the modes , you should address problems immediately and directly.
𝐋𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐨𝐧 𝟑: 𝐒𝐢𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐦𝐩 𝐚𝐥𝐰𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭𝐬 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞, 𝐢𝐭 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐚 𝐟𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐚𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐚𝐥 𝐨𝐛𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐜𝐥𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐥𝐨𝐧𝐠-𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐦 𝐡𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬.
By always wanting more, Chimp gets you to chase an illusionary, perfect state in which you can finally be happy – but only once you have the next thing.
So Remember:
Your Inner Chimp will always Dangle the Next Reward in Front of You.
Don’t let it Ruin your Long Term Happiness.
When you Achieve Something You’re Proud of, Take a Break, Celebrate, and Learn to Appreciate What you Have.
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